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Things to include in a visitation agreement

If you are going through a divorce and have at least one child with the other person, you'll need to create a visitation schedule. With this in place, all parties will have a clear idea of how visitation will work, thus reducing the chance of something going wrong.

While no two situations are the same, there are many things you should consider including in a visitation agreement:

  • Weekends
  • Holiday weekends
  • Even-numbered years
  • Odd-numbered years
  • Holidays
  • School vacations
  • Summer vacations
  • Pick-up of the child
  • Illness of the child
  • Day-to-day communication

How to make joint custody work

Although joint custody may be in the best interest of your child, you know that it can be a challenge to get along with your ex-spouse. Fortunately, with the right plan in place, you'll find that you can make joint custody work.

Here are a few things you can do to avoid trouble in a joint custody arrangement:

  • Bite your tongue. Even if you're tempted, you should never speak poorly about your ex-spouse to your children. This won't get you anywhere, except in more trouble.
  • Always do what's best for your child. It's easy to make decisions that will benefit you, but it's all about your children when it comes to co-parenting.
  • Remain flexible. You want to stick to your parenting agreement as closely as possible. However, flexibility can make life easier for you, your children and your ex-spouse.
  • Don't assume the worst. Just because you consider the other parent a bad spouse, that doesn't necessarily mean that they're a bad parent.
  • Focus on communication. The biggest mistake you can make is cutting off all lines of communication with your ex-spouse. You need to communicate about many things, so find methods of communication that minimize fights.

Tips for avoiding a custody dispute

Sharing custody can be a difficult situation for anyone. Even if you get along well with the other parent of your children, there might be times where you run into some problems. These can include fighting over the custody schedule. Special events such as holidays, vacations and weekends are common triggers for disagreements. Here are some tips for avoiding a custody dispute.

You need to put plans in place as early as possible when wanting to make changes to the schedule. You should also put those plans in writing and inform the other parent as soon as possible. Failing to share the plans with the other parent will only lead to arguments and possible legal issues.

Are you entitled to receive spousal support?

As you proceed with your divorce, you may soon come to realize that your financial circumstances are changing in many ways. You may be entitled to receive spousal support.

This comes into play if you are unable to meet your financial needs without the assistance of your spouse who has the means to make regular payments.

Moving and child custody: Things to keep in mind

When going through the divorce process, you should never lose sight of the steps you can take to make things easier on your children. If you have physical custody of your children, it means they'll primarily live with you in your home.

There may come a point when you want to move. While you don't have much to think about if you're moving within the same general area, there are many details that come into play if you're leaving the city, state or country.

Child custody exchange: Follow these tips

With a child custody order in place, both you and your child's other parent will know what's expected of you both. Depending on your arrangement, you may find yourself exchanging custody with the other parent on a regular basis. While this sounds routine, there are many things that can go awry.

Here are some tips to help keep you on track:

  • Avoid arguments. Some exes have a tendency to argue when they come face to face. Even if you haven't been getting along with your co-parent, it's never a good idea to argue when exchanging custody. Not only does this put you in a worse position, but it can really make your child feel awkward and upset.
  • Choose a neutral location. While there are times when it makes sense, you don't have to exchange custody at your house or the home of your ex-spouse. You can choose a neutral location, such as a local shopping mall, to exchange custody of your child.
  • Keep your safety paramount. If you have any reason to believe the other parent will become violent, you should proceed with caution. If this does occur, it's not in the best interests of your child, and should be reported right away. Your goal should be to avoid similar circumstances in the future.

Have you considered the benefits of virtual visitation?

As a parent with visitation rights, you know how important it is to make the most of the time you spend with your child.

Although your relationship is sure to change after your divorce, it doesn't mean you can't be a big part of your child's life for many years to come.

Methods your spouse may use to hide assets

Losing trust in the person you planned to spend your entire life alongside is always difficult, but if you also suspect that this person is working to stack the deck against you, it can prove even more troublesome. Unfortunately, many spouses who suspect that their marriages are nearing their final days behave less than honestly when it comes to finances, and many use similar tactics and methods in doing so.

If you are heading for a divorce and you suspect your husband or wife may be concealing assets from you in an attempt to come out on top during divorce proceedings, you may be wise to investigate further. Know that your spouse may try to do so with the following methods:

Questions children often ask about divorce

As you ponder divorce, you'll do so with your children in mind. If you decide to move forward, you must have a plan in place for keeping your children safe at all times.

There are many things you can do to make life easier on your children during this difficult time, such as answering any questions they may have. Here are some of the most common:

  • Why are you doing this? You need to make it clear to your children that your divorce has nothing to do with them. You never want a child to assume that he or she did something wrong.
  • Can we still live together? Many children assume that everyone can still live together, even after divorce. You need to explain how the child custody process works and how it will impact living arrangements in the future. Do so with the age of your children in mind.
  • What will happen to me? You never want your child to feel like they are being left behind. Make it clear that they will continue to live their life as usual, for the most part.
  • Will I still be able to spend time with both of you? Be sure that your children know that they will still be able to see both parents, albeit in a different environment than before.
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